I used "extramarital" so some smartass wouldn't say "it's not premarital sex if you don't get married" I should've just said "sex outside of marriage"
and the implication isn't that you and your husband are lacking in morals and values, it's that your morals and values are less strict than my own. Hey, by all means, have all the sex you want outside of marriage..I'm not telling anybody that they can't. But I'd like any woman that I may potentially become involved with to share my morals and values, and to say I'm "stubborn, unforgiving, jealous, and not having enough confidence" for thinking so is stubborn and closedminded.