I know I should know better then posting my personal life here but I'm not sure what to do right now. I don't know if anyone here have suggestions, hints or recommendations but if you do please let me know.

My mom has been suffering from depression for a but now (like 6 months) and yesterday she lost it. She tried killing herself by dropping all kinds of pills. Thankfully my bro and dad were at home and took her to the hospital where they made her puke all that shit out. Today she's back at home and i just learned this like an hour ago. I don't know what to do, how to deal with it and what to say. Tomorrow I'm going there but I'm not sure what i should do... I'm lost, confused, pissed and sad. But this is not about me...

She says that she'll go see a specialist and that she is ashamed of what she did. My dad and her had a fight yesterday but this is not solely because of the fight. She's been depressed for other reasons then my dad. Mostly because o family problems between her and her brothers and her mom.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

:wtc:

 

I think one of the more important things you have to keep in mind is to be empathetic and not show her anger. Obviously you want to show her your worried, upset, scared, etc, but don't get mad at her. Second, she needs to obviously see a psychiatrist and get on some meds and get counceling.

 

This. Showing anger/getting mad could push her over the edge...this is the time for sympathy/empathy.

 

yeah i kinda already dropped the ball on that one but she understood and we talked after. I was like "WTF"! And i'm trying to show empathy. She's been crying like every day for the pass 6 months and it's been taking a toll on my dad too cause he takes the blame and tries to support her (he's a emotionless person in general) the way that he can but i guess yesterday things got out of hand.

Tomorrow i will try to keep my anger to myself.

BTW she has been taking anti depressants but i just remembered that in our conversation she was weaning(not sure how to use that word). I'm not sure if the Dr told her that it was ok to just stop or if she had a plan or what... It didn't hit me until right now. I've heard that the process of stopping drugs can really fuck up ones emotional balance so maybe that too is part of the problem.

tomorrow i will do that. Not Totally sure how though... I know she'll be happy to see me.

 

I hate to hear that man. In a kinda same situation, my good friend from High School was taking anti depressants (prescribed) and the doc thought it was time for him to try and lower the dose to almost none, and he was a wreck. Then all it took was his little brother getting in a car crash and David lost it and tried to kill himself in a similar manner(downing alot of dif pills). Long story short, the doc re-uped his dose back to normal and he went to counciling. But I also agree on the showing of caring etc, intstead of the anger.

 

Anybody on anti-depressants should not stop or reduce their dosage without talking to their doctor first...this can cause all sorts of chemical imbalance problems, and could have contributed to her feelings. She definitely needs to see her doctor ASAP.

 

Yeah I'll talk to her about that too... I'm actually writing up a little list.

 

might kinda be obvious, but have u and/or ur dad/bro tried talking to her brothers and her mom? and try to figure out some kind of help or solution in working things out somewhat?

 

We have but she never really wanted to talk to us much about it. We knew what is the origins of the problem too. I knew she was taking anti depressent i told her many times to seek help. But as you know you can't force someone into getting help...

I also have to add that she is a very emotional person. My parent have had a really rough life in general. So i did not see that coming at all...

 

no i mean, have u, ur bro, and ur dad tried talking directly to her brothers/mom? like talk to them and see what they think the problem is and try to figure out some kind of reconciliation between them and your mom?