Red X

So I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months, and we both recently (within the last year) got out of 3 year relationships.

Anyway, she's really close to her ex and her gay friends and so I am often invited to hang out with them for parties, bars, etc. I gladly go - I'm not the type of person to pass up a good time and I am not too immature to think anything bad about the situation.

Anyway, we end up at a house party (its been years), and shes getting waaaaaaaaaaaaaaasted. She starts whispering and chatting with her ex the entire night and basically spending time with everyone else BUT me. I brush it off because its not a huge deal or at least I don't want to make it one. But throughout the night I get people asking me if we're really dating because its not obvious in anyway. I'll say "yeah we're seeing each other" and they'll reply "ohhhhhhhh.. :roll eyes:"

So then I'm starting to lose my masculinity and her ex (who I'm pretty cool with) is obviously perturbed by the entire situation (doesnt want her hitting on him) and then someone mentions something to her about her deal. Then she becomes artificially nice to me and I hate it, it was unprompted. Anyway she starts getting trashed and I realized I had to get her home before she really got sick so before she left she practically made out with all the gay guys. So now I brought her back and put her on the couch.

I'm considering ending it here before it gets worse. Am I jumping the gun?


AKA need some ChefBoiali advice

sinthetiq

you need to drink more

Red X

I drank quite a bit at the bars but i had to cut myself off before I drove back.

aux

talk to her about what happened in the morn. just chill

å

EJAC and EJECT.

Joe

dot.

dubcac

Bounce

Chefboiali

Man..... This girl sounds really young and caught up. She's hitting on her ex who would rather she didn't, her people are asking you what's up because her behavior doesn't reflect the two of you are dating, and turns into an ice princess to your face with all watching. All of this going on and you care enough to get her home safe. Good guy meets bad girl.

And tell her why. You'd be doing both of you a favor. All of her friends watched her dogg you out like that. Fucked up. I'd cut her loose and allow my stock value to rise. Word gets out that you broke it off, you might find a girl with a better sense of decorum.

When we get stuck in life and don't know what to do, we do what's most familiar to us, whether that behavior is good for us or not. If she acted that way, more than likely she's done it before, and she'll do it again. :hs:

AcuraLsSE

I'm thinking the same way. If shes doing that this early in the relationship she will most likely do it again. I would cut things off before your feelings get to involved and you get hurt later down the road. But I would be sure to tell her why. If she wants to be in a successful relationship then pointing out whats wrong with the situation will make her think more about what shes doing. Sounds to me like she still needs to grow up. Personally I tend to date older girls for there maturity level. How old are you two?

95SiR

DTB - dump the bitch

cut ur losses short and move on. if u have any self dignity and self value, dump the bitch. like chef said tho, tell her why shes fucked up and ur not a hotel bell boy that wants to just live pushing around her baggage. cant turn a ho into a housewife.