I have a niece who will cry for hours if she is told it's bedtimeh: So yeah it is a big deal, come talk to me when you have a child that doesn't want to sleep when you do, see how clearheaded you can be.

 

oh snap they had bamboo whips I dunno what hurts more

 

My dad beat me with a banana tree whip type branch when I lived in the FL Keys for getting a D in Social Studies. That sucks

 

No, what you've established is that they wont misbehave if you capture their attention and essentially distract them, rather than facing the issue of misbehaving.


Like you said, children learn from their parents. If you're teaching your child that the way to solve your problems is to just think/talk/focus on something else and the problem will go away, well then you're just blind.

 

Misbehaving isn't a problem, it's a situation, you make it a problem if you allow it to perpetuate itself. What you're teaching them is that their time is better suited to doing something constructive than destructive. They learn that they can have fun by doing things that aren't mischievous and detrimental to others. They also get the chance to spend time with their parents in a positive way that reinforces the bond between parent and child, basically it shows the child you care about them and are willing to invest your time in them. Not that you are annoyed with them and their behaviors and want them to stop with yelling or physical means that will require very little of your time, but much of your anger/frustration.

You make a lot of assumptions about what I say, I'm not going to write out a definition of everything I post. You twist and misconstrue everything I am saying to benefit your side of the argument. I don't lose here, nothing you say will change how my son is developing due to my parenting methods. So if you are looking to be right be right, I couldn't care less, I already have my reward

I know I sound like a parenting book, maybe when my children are adults and successful well balanced human beings I will write one. For now I enjoy spending time with my son and my soon to be born daughter.

 

what if your kids become the president of the united states and start a war?

 

Then I will proceed to kick the shit out of themh: Or I will know there was a good reason:run:

 

that's a paddlin'