So it was admitted to me on Friday that I had been emotionally cheated on. Apparently it occurred 5 years ago when my wife and I were going through a bit of a rough spot. The guy that was involved was a very good friend of hers that she had met in high school. She admitted to me that they had both stated that they had feelings for each other but had never acted on them since he lived about 4 hours away from her (she had met him about 1 year before we became involved). He had joined the Air Force and was based in Florida so she hadn’t seen him in about 3 years but she admitted the phone calls & e-mails/chatting became very frequent when I wasn’t home. I did some Googling on the subject and found out a bit more of what it means since I really had never heard the term “emotional cheating” before:

-you share secrets and on a deeper level with someone other than your partner.

-you constantly turn your thoughts to that third person.

-your mind has "checked out" of your relationship.

-you're giving your heart to someone else.

-feel withdrawn, distant or disconnected from your partner -- you know when you feel that emptiness and coldness between you.

So I really don’t know what to think or how to react to it. It happened 5 years ago and I know for a fact that she hasn’t seen him in person since 1999 so nothing physical ever happened. They haven’t had any contact in probably 3-4 years. It’s really weird since I’m really not sure how to react, possibly due to the fact that it was a few years ago. This whole situation is weirding me out.

Anyone ever been in a situation or experienced this before?

 

Don't worry about it man. "Emotional Cheating" can easily be confused with "what if". It's only natual.

Fact is, if she says she loves you, then so be it. Be everything you can to her.

The entire fact she admitted this to you, that just shows how harmless it is.

 

WOW.... never.... Im young and I like it that way...

 

um wow, sounds like ive been the other guy a couple times, and currently am with one chick

that sux man, i can say theres two girls that i know share more with me than their bf but never thought of it as "cheating" persay just that they dont feel they can talk to their bf as easily...

 

If it was that long ago it's really something you should leave behind you as it can only harm your relationship by letting it resurface. However, if it really bothers you that much, just have a serious talk with her about it and ask her to be 100% honest with you.

 

What brought htis up?

 

I wouldnt be too worried about it. You said you guys were in a rough spot, and her "emotional cheating" could be what saved you the hell of her actually cheating. She just needed somebody else she could share with because she prob. didnt feel she could share with you at the time. It was 5 years ago and she openly came to you with it. I would give her a good hate fuck and then be thank her for her honesty and let it go

 

I have no intention of really dwelling on it or anything it just seemed weird that it came out of nowhere. The funny thing is that the first time I met this guy I knew that if something were to ever happen he'd be the guy that I would have to worry about.

 

It was andrew

 

Wow, looks like a few girls "cheated" with me...............I never thought this would be harmful.