My boy and I were meeting at a mutual friends birthday party after we both did our thing that day. When I got there I found him and hung out with him for about 15 min (there was only 1hr left of the party) &then walked around talking to various people I haven't seen in a long time, but that apparently wasn't the issue.

He was mad that after that I was dancing with friends, most of them of which are men whom I have had, nor have, nor ever will have sexual attraction to EVER.. merely just close male friends who have been in my life for a very long time. I was by no means throwing myself all over them nor was I bump'n'grinding.. just dancing &making up dumb ass dance moves @that just having fun.

So apparently the boy got jealous &left the party for the last 45 min of it and sat in the car talking on the phone.

So I am wondering if I am in the wrong and I should not dance with my guy friends period because I'm in a "commited" relationship or if that is something that he will need to come to terms with?

 

Is he one of those really insecure guys? does he ask you where you go all the time and who you're with at these places or was this like a first time thing?

 

We usually talk throughout the day &usually I let him know where I'm going to be without him asking. That's just the kind of person I am. My closest friends &my boy usually know where I am 24/7.

This has happened a couple times since we've been going on though.. this whole jealousy thing.

&this is the first time I've been "commited" in a while.. so I'm wondering if I need to cool it on the guy friends, but at the same time I don't want to have to do that just because I have a boyfriend. I don't feel like I am doing anything wrong. I guess he is used to having his girl attached to his hip lol

 

lol i see. well try sitting down with him and talking to him about it, if you are seriously trying to commit yourself to a relationship with him and want to have guy friends still just let him know, tell him he has nothing to worry about and that you love him enough to never hurt him in any way, namely cheating on him. I suck at advice like this because i too was going through this same ordeal with my g/f but i can kinda relate to him on some levels. I used to worry about my girl around guys but she tells me every day how much she loves me and would never hurt me so i have the comfort there to cheer me up.

 

Yeah and it's weird.. I go out of my way constantly to let him know I care about him like show up @ his work, bring him jamba juice when he doesn't want to go out, send him texts when I can't talk, &I let him know where I am going to be &with who so he doesn't worry, but apparently that doesn't help. lol Grrr so frustrating. &the weird part is, he knows practically ALL the guys I hang out with &so far I have managed to not hang outwith any of them alone since I have been with Tim (my bf).

 

Sounds like you boyfriend is a tad too jealous and way too insecure, if he can't deal with this now it will only get worse later. He's acting like a dumb teenager that hasn't had much experience. You need to sit down with him and straighten his ass out if you want a successful relationship with him otherwise just dump him and move on.

 

Funny... my boss said the same thing. lol.

 

sounds like me

 

Maybe he is unsecure, but it's up to you to decide if he too insecure for you or not. Think about it, if he was dancing with other girls, girls that he hasn't seen in a long time would you be jealous? At least 50% of the girls i know would be.

From what you said you didnt see him all day, he was probably excited to spend time with you at the party and have fun with you. but you went dancing with old friends instead, did he dance with you and the firends?

 

good observations

like everyone else said, its a give and take situation. if i were your guy, i dont think id mind so much w/ the dancing thing, but i would be jealous of your attention, especially if he hadnt seen you all day. guys do get jealous but in different degrees.

at the same time, it does seem like in the past hes shown signs of bein insecure, and as OLDMAN said, he needs to grow up, too. have that talk and go over these things. he needs to step it up as a guy, and there are things you could do to help, but not fix what i see as his insecurities.

but good to see that youre committed to him. i hate seein whack sh1t in relationships h: