:werd: mine too.

 

I didn't speak to mine for 3 years. Now I'm always over there helping him fix his house, computer, or car/truck.

 

I don't know if I would say that I hate my dad..but I have lots of anger towards him. My parents divorced when I was a senior in H.S. And right after they divorced and one night my dad came storming into the house yelling and screaming; calling me all kinds of not nice names, and yelling at my mom. He called his parents over (my grandparents) and even my grandparents started talking mass crap about me, and what a bad person I am :dunno: It just turned into this big mess, and I still haven't forgotten any of the stuff that was said. I pushed my mom into getting a divorce from my dad, they were always fighting, and never happy. It took it's toll on my sisters so I was like this has got to stop; and I think my dad feels I am responsible for their divorce. Also, he lives in town and is supposed to see my sisters every other weekend, and they're lucky if they see my dad 1 or 2 times a month, for no more than a few hours at a time. Which is really sad. h:

 

i would totally push my mom into getting a divorce, but that would hurt my grandparents too much, and i know people will look at her as a bad wife...besides his actions towards my mom improved

things did start going downhill after middle school....all because i wanted to make my own choices and my own friends....which are NOT bad friends...i was never a druggie, a drunk, a slut, etc.....still not good enough

 

I don't talk to either unless its a dire emergency. Its kinda hard to rekindle a relationship when you've been on your own since 13 with no mother figure or father figure.

 

when i was young, my dad and i would always be doing something together albeit doing yardwork, house maintainence, car repairs, etc.

then when i was a teenager things started getting distant between us. his leaving on business trips for 4-8 months at a time didn't help either. plus my mom was recovering from cancer and became an alcoholic. and when she drinks she gets to be the BITCHIEST person ever. i'd have to sit there and listen to her insult me non-stop, for hours, until i finally went to sleep.

when i got my license, i made sure i was not home after school until late as possible. my parents thought i was doing "illegal" stuff because i wouldn't come home for dinner or when they asked what time i was coming home, i'd say "sometime later".

i grew very distant from my parents...i can't say i hate them because they helped me whenever i needed it. but my dad yelled at me when i changed my major from engineering to poli sci saying "pussies have those majors" i told him, i wasn't interested in doing math and physics all my life and i wanted to do government work. he still resents it. my mom tryies to make things better between us but i don't return it - i was hurt too much too young.

so now, i keep communication short and simple with them, and since my childhood i've become very shy and too myself, fearing rejection and insults.