well, since no one's helped me but some of you have looked... i guess you're running into similar problems.

anyway, i pseudo-successfully installed the mirrors using this website's diagram (at the bottom of the page) http://www.geocities.com/dwnlow91/JDMmirror.html

i know it's for an integra, but hell it worked on my 99 civic. just ignore the wire coloring, just use logic to decide what wire goes where.