Found it, wasn't a fun endevor. The 16 pin connector i was referring to is the one on the left side of the dash by the fuse box cover. That 16 pin connecter can be used if you have one of those nice OBD testers. It plugs right in and spits the codes out for you on your tester. Now the connecter i just had to jump.....

That thing was so buried in there i had to actually unbolt the computer to get to it. When you look in the service manual, they make it look like it's right there in the front of the panel. It's NOT on my car. it is shoved up in there hiding and quite torture to get to. anyway, got a code 41, O2 sensor circuit fault. i'm not even going to try to do further testing, because considering it's slightly bent condition, it's not going to spit out any voltages for me, or else i would've gotten the low voltage or high voltage codes. And to be sure.....i reset the computer by pulling the fuse, waited a few minutes, inserted the fuse, started up the car, ran it for 5 minutes, turned it off, jumped the connector, ran the codes. Thanks for the help guys. Already ordered the O2 sensor as well from that place that drift posted. thanks a lot!