time to grow a friend that knows what he's doing to help you.

I don't understand what you're talking about. I'm not trying to be a dick, you're in a tough spot with your car ripped apart.

front or rear strut?
is the top of the strut still bolted to the car or what?

at the top of the front strut under the hood there is one big bolt in the center of the shock tower...you dont remove that one untill you have the strut off the car and the spring compressor on the spring. the two or three smaller bolts around the big center one are the ones that let the strut drop out.