Originally Posted by
GSRchick714
I don't think he means running home to tell the wife every time you make $100 but in most cases, that $ would just be deposited into an acct that was joint OR that she at least knew about. Doesn't mean the $ is her's, just means it isn't "hidden". Just seems shady to keep stuff from your own wife - marriage is a partnership!
I see nothing wrong with having separate accts so you can do what you want with the $ you earn, but I don't see why it's necessary to keep those accounts private. I have my own acct as does hubby but we also have a joint account for joint purchases....:dunno:
meh i disagree ... 100% openness is not always the best answer. and just because you don't tell someone all the facts doesnt make it shady.
they pay their bills, his paychecks go direct deposit into the joint account, she holds the debit card and check book to said account.
on the flipside, he has lots of sidework that nets him cash. he puts it into an account that she doesnt have access to nor knows whats in it. she knows he does sidework and makes decent money since he never asks for her to give him money from his paycheck. she just doesnt know how much he makes with said job, where the money goes or how much is there. if he wants to buy something with that money he buys it, he doesnt ask. theres no discussion. its his little stash. as far as she is concerned the money he makes on the side is just enough to be his pocket cash
starting marriage at day 1 and marriage after 25 years are two different things.
i think you would be hard pressed to find a married couple in the 20+ year term that openly shares 100% of everything they are involved in.