I wouldn't have posted and asked for advice if I didn't want feedback (positive or negative) so I don't take offense to it at all. I understand what you mean and that's to cover my ass. I'm figuring this will start taking place sometime in 2010, by then i'm hoping to be married already by that time. I know everyone has their own opinion on marriage(s), some had bad/shitty experiences and never wanting to get married or married again but that's not going to change my view on my decision of wanting to tie the knot. I'm gonna take one step at a time.