The relationship you have with her sounds like me and my best friend. We basically both have the power to have the other drop anything when in town (then again we live 34 hours apart
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As for the appropriateness of the gift, when I was with my ex, her ex gave her a trip to yellowstone. Just the two of them, alone, for a week. It killed me inside.
I understand you had these plans well before he was in the picture so that has some merit, but if it was while together, it is respectful to talk to the current bf about any big plans that would involve aloneness like the Yellowstone trip. (Yeah I never heard from the ex about it, and
I was the one to talk to him after about it.