yes i can, men do it all the time, age is perception. not everyone looks their age or acts it. does she look older then you do? there are several relatives in my family, its a large family, that date, marry and stay together along time with the woman being older. my relatives over the years have told me who was older because, in some cases, i couldnt tell. like i said 10 yrs either way doesnt matter. 20 yrs would be physically more obvious and aging concerns would most likely develop. oh, add madonna n guy theirs is a 10 yr age diff. its just socially more acceptable for the guy to be older.