Happiness is all in your perspective.
Your perspective is a major part of your personality.
It's just IN YOU to be happy.

You can do mental excercises to put a positive light on things. For example ...

situation:
I'm not happy at work.

positive spin:
Work is work, I have another 16 hours outside of the office to live life. On top of it, work pays for everything I have in life. Jobless people would kill to be me.

negative spin:
I'm going to be at this forever.


situation:
girlfriend dumped me.

positive spin:
Good thing I find out now, rather than later. Who wants to be in a 1 way relationship?

negative spin:
I'm never going to find another one.

You gotta spin positive thoughts.



You need to make yourself happy. You can't put your entire source of happiness into something as volitile as a girl. It's like investing all your money into one stock. Diversify your pleasure portfolio.

10% relationship
30% self
30% family
15% hobby
15% other

in this case, if you lose the relationship, you're still happy.


this is what you did.
80% relationship
5% self
5% family
0% hobby
10% other

You lost the relationship, now you have nothing to fall back on.


Snap out of it man.



with me ...
5% relationship - I don't have a girlfriend, but I'm still out there meeting new chicks. It's not the end all of me anymore.

30% self - this includes working hard, working out, and taking care of me first.

20% family - hanging out with my brother, watching TV, just making sure home is okay.

25% hobby - internet, downloading things, playing in photoshop, mixing, shopping ... the fun stuff.

10% other - spending time at the bar, cleaning things, random computer work, just anything i find fun, but I can't put in a category.