i agree..i know when my cousin went through a divorce, he was married for 20 yrs, he was going to quit his job at nasa and join his brother, a priest, in cambodia as a volunteer with maryknoll. he chose not too after he realized he still had 2 kids to raise..its more involved then that but he was so distraught a sudden, extreme choice was what he thought would help him. a complete change from the life that at the time was too painful. he chose to stay home and is doing much better. its been 2 yrs..