In todays world there are alot of precautions to take. Some people don't know their limits or don't understand how their actions can actually affect another person. Really it depends on one's attitudes - long term relationships may be started on attraction but they take hard work to maintain and grow. You have to be on the lookout if the people you are seeing are actually capable of putting the work in. It's a hard thing to gauge; everybody is different and everybody changes. I can't blame people for changing with time, but in a relationship I hold myself responsible for my actions and my attitude (my contribution) and I expect my partner to be similarly responsible.

I should probably mention that I'm East Indian, (i.e south asian, parents came from India....kinda ironic considering the earlier posts) and well I've noticed that I'm still influenced by the whole arranged marriage concept. Divorce is really frowned upon and not widely accepted by people of my parents generation. So when it comes to marriage I really have a no bullshit attitude, much like the rest of my family.

But with the changing times, I've come to accept that yes sometimes couples split because they don't manage their relationship. But I reason that if your intention is to have a family, it makes little sense to divorce. It reduces the wedding from a celebration to just a big dress up party. In my book that just doesn't add up.

So DuffMan, I like the attitude that you have towards marriage, and I think its the constructive one to have.:goodjob: