Are you fucking serious? I redline my car at least once on average every trip I take, if it's a long trip I'll nail it 5 or 6 or more times. I've probably redlined my car ten thousand times since I've owned it. I have 221,675 miles, full compression on all cylinders, I burn a quart of oil every 6-7k miles, G-TECH 0-60 a couple months ago of 7.5 seconds, 28MPG highway...these cars were made for this. It isn't a 1942 Plymouth. And it's not a shitty Ford 3.0L Duratec with a cast iron crankshaft and valves in a Taurus. Modern engines are dyno tested for hundreds (often well over a thousand) hours at redline, peak power and peak torque to make sure they can withstand faaaar faaar more than you can ever throw at it.

Abusive is not maintaining your car. Abusive is revving up to 4k in neutral and dropping it into D4. Abusive is never checking your oil. Driving it hard is the way it was meant to be driven.

If you want to piddle around and never go above 4k RPMs, sell your Accord and buy a Taurus. What's the point?