this EXACT same thing happend to me last semester. i did not have to take it to the dean though. i spoke to the teacher in person and worked out a resoloution. Im sorry about your loss. my Grandfather passed away last year in october, on a saturday as well. He was the staple in our family and i know exactly what you are going through. just keep your head up and be there for your family. thats what I did anyhow.