I've been through that same internal struggle. Yet even some of the really high priced, have to have a reservation to get in places still don't know how to do a steak right. They rush it and try to cut corners. I've vowed many times not to ever have steak from a restruant again, yet I'll see one go by and smell it and get one. Then comes the disappointment.
The only consistant way to a good steak, is to make it myself. Or my friends that are also good at steak.