All in all its a sticky situation, Its hard being that Im probably the only one in the family who has more know how and what not of how the world works. Having a fob like family who doesn't knwo how the world works is really hard to deal with sometimes. And telling them to eff off isn't always the greatest answer to everything. They did help me and my wife when we needed it, and whether this is what i have to deal with as karma then so be it. But thanks for all the advice here guys, sometimes you just need to vent a little and hear suggestions cause im such at a lost i don't even know anymore. I really love my wife and her family, but sometimes their ingnorance or unknowingness to everyday life takes a toll that i have to deal with. Like i said this family somehow does not like success or only seems to live just the way it lives.