Hahah - actually HawtPants is right

I stayed out of most of the planning, since I was working so much. I did have a say on who came to our wedding though. She wanted to invite everyone. And I said why should we have people we don't talk to at least on a monthly basis?

Also don't fall victim to "It's something that will make your wedding special" type thing from the hall, church, flowers, cake, DJs, etc... They all throw that in to make you feel guilty. The only thing that matters during a wedding is the two of you are happy. Material things will not make it special - cause it already should be a special day.

Also don't let family plan your wedding. I've seen too many problems with that UNLESS they are paying for everything. Which is why my wife and I paid for our own wedding.