why is it that pro-life people say, "if you can't be responsible then bear the consequences (of birth)".

how is that punishment for the parents if you are forcing a child to live with unwanting parents. You are punishing the wrong party. The people who cannot make prevent unwanted pregnancies are probably irresponsible and careless, so why force them to have kids?

and i'm sorry but you can't say "this is ok except if it's rape, because then you'll have a million people trying to get abortions turning their significant others in as rapists.

When a woman gets raped she is violated and impregnanted without conscent. So what if she's on the pill and she gets pregnant? Doesn't that mean she didn't want to be pregnant in the first place?

pro-life means pro-life, pro-choice means pro-choice, you can't make exceptions.