Whoa - torque wrenches arent for loosening bolts last time I checked. Can you say "Precision instrument?" The handles are long so you can apply a lot of torque without a lot of effort (check out howstuffworks.com for info on tht kind of stuff).

In my 95 Civic (RIP) the bolt to drain my transmission was also "securly fastened." When I called Honda, the Tech told me it was common for the bolts to sieze. I had the bumper off of my car so I was able to put my foot on the wheel, lean back and pull pull pull.

Basically you've gotta roll up your sleeves, brace yourself and pull. Maybe your socket was old/poor quality? The socket my friend has spins when you pull it too hard so that might be your problem.

If all else fails I guess you could pay the $40 to get it drained/refilled.