well there is no puddle under the car i have checked and when she sits in traffic it heats up or in a drive thru it heats up and i told ehr when it does that jsut turn the heater on and come straight home so she does and i just put more anti freeze in it and then it will go a few days with out needing any so that is how i can tell that it is the head gasket but thank you for the reply accordvtec77 but if anyone else has info please post away i do not like her dad and all i am going to do is print all of this off and show him so post as you wish