there is a black ring around the bulb itself, THAT is what you have to turn to release the bulb. As far as the harness goes though...try this: looking down at the bulb, try pulling the whole connector up towards you, THEN while holding it up, push on the release tab, that usually works. Only other way without breaking anything, is to stick a small screwdriver between the plastic base and the connector, to release the tab that way.