I am very sorry to hear about your loss! :wtc: As you know, there is nothing that anyone can say that will make the hurt go away, but you do need to remember that everything happens for a reason, and that you will get through this. Having a daughter of my own, I cannot even imagine what it would feel like to lose her. Losing a loved one, or anyone close to you, is hard enough, but your own child...........that is an entirely different kind of love and bond that you share, something that you cannot really understand until you have kids of your own. You and your wife are in my thoughts and prayers - my heart just goes out to you guys. My wife had a miscarriage about nine months ago and that was hard, but to carry the baby to full term (or somewhat close I am assuming), or at least give birth, and think about what the future may hold for your new family, and then have it just ......... gone, man, that is hard. The good news is that you know you guys can get pregnant again if you want to........there are many couples in the world who cannot do that. (My wife and I are expecting again and we are out of the first trimester so things are looking good). Just try to keep in mind that for some reason, your baby wasn't ment to live here on earth with you right now - maybe she would have been sick all her life, etc. No one knows the reason, but there is a reason............There is nothing that you guys could have done differently to make the outcome better - it was out of your hands. As hard as it may be, try to keep your head up, be as supportive as you can to your wife (as hard as this is to you, it is probably even harder on her, seeing as she is the one that had an even more special bond by carrying her till delivery - not to mention that she is probably going through some post pardem immotional issues on top of what happened. All I am saying is that you guys need to stick tight right now). Keep in mind that even though you may not have initially wanted to have kids, you obviously have a lot of love to give to a child - and you can get pregnant again. Chin up man, and if you need to talk, just PM me.