Okay now I actually read through your whole post, and what's all this jibber jabber about capitalism? Last time I checked, Honda is selling lots of cars because they have courteous sales staff and a product with a reputation for not making you best friends with the parts guy. The percentage of new car buyers that actually work on their own vehicles is so miniscule that whether or not one particular dealer in one particular town gives out a parts software CD to some diy-er is completely unimportant. Mitsubishi on the other hand, is hemorrhaging cash like no tomorrow.
Aside from that, I've never had problems with an Acura parts counter, so whatever.