I dunno..that is a really tough decision. Is there maybe somewhere closer that would fit your economic needs? Do what you can to stay with your daughter. My Dad lived in California and I lived in Florida, only seeing him 4 or 5 weeks out of the year. I'd come back from each visit almost hysterical because even though we weren't close physically, we were close emotionally. I finally ran away from my moms house at 13 to live with my dad, feeling horrific guilt for making my mom sad (sorry so long winded, just trying to give you a a kid's point of view).