I'll throw out my preferences for mods to help you start your research.

Intake = Comptech Icebox
I have had an AEM and an Icebox and the Icebox is not as loud, makes similar power and is stock looking. I really like this piece.

Header = JDM OEM 4-1
Have this now and have been very pleased. You can puit a heatshield on it and it is very incognito. THis is a great band for the buck header at sub $400. You will need to buy a 2.5" custom Cat from somewhere like www.hybridgarage.com.

Exhaust = Dunno I am running stock cause I am a fuddy duddy who doesn't like noice. My top Choices would be SMS Products, Hytech Twin Loop, Buddy Club 63mm setup, Comptech, Stock with Buddy Club B-pipe.

Final Drive = ATS 4.929
Not cheap or easy to install but worth it. I woudl do this when you need your clutch done and do a Lightweight Flywheel at the same time. jack@p1auto.com has the knowledge on this setup.

VAFC = I'd probably go ahead and spend the money for a Hondata.
(You will wish you had when you get cams). Talk to Matt@hondata.com to figure out what is best for you. Also you are not too far from Virginia the hondata Guru on the East coast is Steve Sakai so I'd be sure to go see him.

Cams = Stock are my favorite. I'd say Toda B's or Skunk2 Stage 2's would be my next choice but a LOT of other parts are needed besides cams to do this right.