Originally posted by Dweezel
Okay, so I was hanging out with this girl earlier this year and she started giving me vibes. So, in an effort to be up front and to not lead her on, I told her "I just got out of a relationship and I am not looking for anything other than a friend and maybe an occasional hook up. So, she starts going off on how she just ended a relationship like that and wanted to think about it. I really didn't pay any mind to it, would hang out with her occasionally, etc.
So last night she is talking to me about it and how she doesnt feel comfortable doing it. I tell her I understand and that is fine with me. She thought I was going to hate her and I told her absolutely not. Well, instead of letting the topic die, she keeps hanging onto it. She is like, it is weird when you invite me over at 12 or 1 AM. I told her look, I am usually unable to sleep and bored at that time, and if I invite you over, its just to hang out. She goes on and on, till she said something along the lines of:
If something were to happen I am not "strong enough" to stop you from "doing anything" if I am not feeling comfortable
Basically she said I would commit an act that is absolutely horrid in nature and would never think about it. So I told her I was mad and that I didn't really want to speak to her. I mean, if this is a guy you have been hanging out with for a while, you have to be able to tell SOMETHING about their character. So anyway, I go to bed and she IMs me with some ish about how she has trust issues with guys and her reasons, etc etc. I honestly do not feel like dealing with this.
So, how do I tell her to get lost, with out making her unable to trust guys even more?
guys you have been hanging out with for a while do that shit too. its not just complete strangers. unfortuneately i speak from experience. he was a good friend, and i never would have guessed he would ever do that to a girl.
i have huge trust issues with guys, but be honest with her. tell her you dont think yall should hang out for a while because of what she said. if that what she thinks youre capable of, then she doesnt think very highly of you to begin with. just tell her the truth.