ok finally found it, its one of 2 things, now i finally got it to stop blowing right away, after i ripped out my car alarm, fog lights, and turbo timer, shift light, and radio... lol what a PITA, then the fuse was good until i hit the ignition switch which meant it was down to one of a few things since this ruled out alot of subsystems in that particular loom, was down to thermo switch, brake fluid sensor, and oil pressure sensor, so i switched those 2 wires above the oil filter (whoever said they can go either way needs to kick themselves in the nuts b4 someone else does, and wiggled the wiring around the brake sensor and FINALLY it works again, NOW ive got to rewire my entire car in again. but at least the problem is finally fixed. what a fing pain, spent about 3 hours total with a multimeter elmininating systems that could possibly be shorted, found many wiring issues all of which were fixed, and some pretty shitty grounds. my hands are cut up and bleeding, my fingers hurt, and my car has wires hanging everywhere. all for something as simple as 2 wires.....