Originally posted by lkailburn
wow... this thread is soo coincidental. my girlfriend of a year and 8 months who i was planning on marrying etc, cheated on me a few weeks ago. she met someone at a party(she had not had anything to drink) made out with him and let him finger her in his car. i immediatly broke it off, but now i don't know what to do, because she is trying to win me back, but i feel she has to try a hell of a lot harder if she really wants me back. so i'm kinda in a rutt, i don't know what i'm supposed to do. i still have those feelings for her, but now that my hearts in peices....i just don't know. for anyone who has not yet gone through this, this is the most painful experience of my entire life...
anyone feel free to comment
See... the "not being drunk" thing is hard, because while you can't justify it, you can see the judgment impairment...
Some questions, though, and if you're not comfortable sharing this, then that's cool (You can PM me aswell if you still want some advice but wanna keep some stuff under wraps):
1) Did she tell you, or did someone else?
2) Is this the first time she's ever done something questionable?
3) Do you honestly think you could work on this, and that you can re-establish the trust that has been lost?
4) Would you be able, if this happened again, to break off EVERYTHING and never see her again?
Think about those for a bit... and if you think you would even hesitate on #4, then getting back into a relationship with her could be dangerous IMO...