Originally posted by FromTheBottom
wow you guys have hit it totally on the mark for me. i fear not being over my ex every day, but i think it's more loneliness than anything else. i've seen her at the bars or whatever, and i don't feel a thing for her, so i think it's losing that closeness that gets to me.
one thing i've learned to do is to live life for myself. if you're not happy relationship wise, go out and reward yourself. the best way for me to cope with the breakup was to spoil myself once in a while, especially since i was saving a lot of money by not going out to dinner with her or whatever.
just try to live it up for yourself. cherish the times with your close friends, and live to make yourself happy. i go running and work out when i get into those moods. it's all about what you make of it, turning that negative energy into something positive.
:werd: You are totaly right. I broke up with my ex 2 years ago cause she cheated on me with a coworker of mine. I wasn't happy in the relationship.. and was too blind to see.. but because of the cheating.. my pride was damaged hard core. But.. I stopped hating. I realized.. what was the point? I wasn't in contact with my ex anymore.. I only saw her at work... and... I just ignored. I didn't date until a year and a half later. I had tried.. but.. needed time for myself. I spoiled myself (and my car) rotten in that time. Now... my current relationship.. is the bomb digity. And.. we knew each other for three years before dating. It's like.. fate was just waiting for the time to be right. And.. she's absoultly amazing. She's everything I could ask for. So... if you find yourself down and out from the relationship blues... just be patient. Everyone has someone out there for them.
Janna