i just want to say thanks to everyone on here for opening up, sharing stories, making everyone feel welcome and comfortable.
thanks to nopd and rich for the responses earlier, and especially to derek for sharing your relationship story, thanks for understanding bro.
reading this thread is making me stronger. a lot of you have really dealt with a lot of tough shit in your lives, and your perseverance is helping me find myself and my path. while i haven't had to deal with personal losses or any tragedies, you guys are making me stronger. thank you again.